We were working on Mindfulness. Exploring different topics to help us be more alert and aware in our everyday life.

1) Accept responsibilities for our own actions, even the most insignificant ones. We have the habit of not assuming our mistakes, but we are always very conscient of our victories, especially when they don´t belong to us.

2) Availability: It is usless to be accessible all the time for the others, as it is usless to be hiden when everybody knows where we are. Alternating these two states, we don´t get tired  senseless and we don´t make the others feel tired of our presence.

3) We don´t need to look for approval in the eyes of the others. We have to be coherent with our own actions, attitudes, and values. It is necessary to look inside for approval not outside, we need to feel confident and trust ourselves.

4) It is essential to be fully conscious of who we are and how we act. It is useless to complain and be sad, saying that somebody else is making us feel that way. Nobody is doing anything to anybody, and least of all, if we are in deep contact with our inner strength.

5) There´s always a tiny bit centimetre of luck at our reach. The real art consits in letting us flow and use it.

All of us possess and inherent power to get some things. The real secret would be in deviating the energy wich we put into our weaknesses and employ it in our real life goals.



 Our state of confusion makes us turn away from all the things we don’t like or are unwanted. What do we do when we face all those negative emotions and uncontrollable thoughts? When we have to deal with hopes and expectations of how we want things to be and they don´t work out. It seems we don’t know how to relate to the dynamic energy of mind, because it seems like an enemy to us. And we really only have two ways of escaping from all this state of violence and disorder: we can either exaggerate the experinece or we can deny it. When we exaggerate it, we see what  isn’t there. And when we deny it, we don’t see what is. 

So let’s start working deeply on these two aspects of our mind: exggeration and denial.

Come and join us in our next november 26th meeting to expand these interesting topics from the book: “The power of an open question” by Elizabeth Mattis-Namgyel

Participant N° 4:

Trying to connect with our deep and dormant wishes is never easy…

I should have done this before, many, many years ago. My dormant wishes had been fighting with my super-ego. My super-ego won the battle. I had been meeting people who blocked my wishes and I allowed it.

Now in my brand-new sixties, I can afford fighting back. I’m working on that. Developing my dormant wishes, little by little, going and coming, absolutely convinced that this is the path. The path to freedom, peace, health, happiness and beauty throughout old age.

Participant N° 3

Trying to change negative thoughts, patterns and attitudes is never easy… 

When we are in front of negative things, the first impression is darkness. But everything has two sides. We need to stop and see; we need to stop and breathe, we need to stop and reflect: What is it hidden? What is there to be developed? What do we need to learn?

If there is something negative, it means that there is something good on the opposite side. Let’s think about it and try to discover waht it is…

Participant N° 2

Trying to cope with the vulnerabilities taht affect our daily routine is never easy:

This vulnerability is calling my attention these days. Why do I feel so sensitive? I´ve been asking myself: Is  my problem really so terrible? Or is it my way to see the reality?

I think  it is time to take notice,  to find a balance and not to feel so vulnerable in the every day routine.

In our last meeting we went on connecting with our creative growth, as well as improving our writing, reading and speaking skills. The activity planned was to write about one of the following topics and then comment on them:

1) Dealing effectively with mistakes is never easy…

2) Developing self-compassion and self-acceptance is never easy…

3) Communicating effectively is never easy…

4) Living in contact with our own reality is never easy…

5) Trying to change negative thoughts, patterns and attitudes is never      easy…

6) Trying to cope with the vulnerabilities that affect our daily routine is never easy…

7) Trying to connect with our deep and dormant wishes is never easy…


Participant N°1:

Trying to connect with our deep and dormant wishes is never easy… how many times have I said those words in my life? And the fact is, that I kept telling myself that this is so… and if it is not easy why should I bother to waste my so “valuable” time?

Do I have any clue about what a wish is? Or at least, have I ever challenged myself to connect with something deep and dormant, that if existed, should be buried and full of dust in some old and rusty compartment, which would make it almost impossible to find?

To be faithful to whom I believe I am, first of all, I have to stop complaining and making excuses for not been able to write. Yes, that’s it “to write”, as since  the beginning of this essay, that has been the only wish which has been resounding in my heart. “Writing” and “Reading” are the strongest wishes I have ever had.

Writing Skills

Writing skills:


Starting something new is never easy, and Jan woke up feeling very nervous

Composition: (120 to 180 words)


Starting something new is never easy, and Jan woke up feeling very nervous. That Monday appeared as a typical rainy winter day. She chose her favorite jeans, a light pink sweater and decided to wear her rain boots.

She felt that the image that her mirror reflected was the correct one according to her feelings; she needed to show him the best aspect of herself: “ a modern, natural and loyal woman”. She knew that his first impression would be the beginning of their relationship. She hoped he would fall in love with her immediately… Jan was full of expectancy and when the clock struck ten, she realized it was time to leave. She walked the ten blocks to his apartment with her heart beating hard.

She knocked at the front door softly. Then she was able to hear steps approaching and in a few seconds she saw a young blond woman carrying the most beautiful baby she had ever seen. She looked deeply into his eyes. He smiled broadly at her  letting his pacifier fell down. “It was love at first sight”, no doubt.

Her first job as a baby-sitter would be an unforgettable moment in her life.


Written by Silvia